Lonely Drive is Lonely

"K-Roll-PorscheTamer" (k-roll390)
06/11/2015 at 23:59 • Filed to: Meh

I haven’t felt down in the dumps in what seems like a good while; and this time, with so much on my mind, I haven’t a single reason why I feel down.

Just going for a drive seems to help take some load off the mind; but only just.

DISCUSSION (39)

Rainbow > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:02

You drive a badass Porsche. Think about that fact and then you’ll probably feel good.

But don’t think about it too much or you’ll become an asshole and park in handicap spaces.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > Rainbow
06/12/2015 at 00:05

It's not even car-related, what has me down. Which is a good thing.

Rainbow > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:10

Damn. Wish I could tell you what to do. I’ve been there before, and it’s always worked itself out somehow. I never know how, but it helps to know that it has never failed to get better.

jdmrookie > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:13

Keep your head up, sometimes we just gotta push through the bad days until we find some good ones again. I just got back from a late night drive myself, very therapeutic.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > Rainbow
06/12/2015 at 00:15

It’s not my first time there to be honest Guess I better sit back, grab a green tea, and do something to wait it out. You’re very kind for trying to help.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > jdmrookie
06/12/2015 at 00:17

The only reason I go for night drives these days. Not for the fun of driving, just for the therapeutic feeling.

CB > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:23

Don’t know what you’re going through, but it’ll pass. As a wise man I once knew once said, some times on cloudy days, you just have to kick back and enjoy the shade, if the metaphor makes sense.

Rainbow > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:30

It’s really no problem. I hate to see anyone else feeling down, so here’s hoping for the best.

MLGCarGuy > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:31

Well whatever is keeping you down, counter it with happy things.

Like thinking of the best parking spot ever. Or taking your Porsche to the track. Or drifting it.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > MLGCarGuy
06/12/2015 at 00:36

Finding happy things is simple. Finding new happy things is much harder. I've never tried drifting or track day before, maybe one day.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:36

LEarn to ride a motorcycle. Mine has been a massive savior for my own mental health. Also, girls love bikes. Just FYI.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > CB
06/12/2015 at 00:37

I think I get it, but I might be wrong because the last bit seems to have a negative meaning based on how I'm reading it.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > Rainbow
06/12/2015 at 00:39

I’m the same way. I can’t stand to see others feeling down; unfortunately I can't say the same for myself. I can get anyone else out of the dumpster but myself. How that's humanly possible, I don't know.

CB > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:40

Maybe. Basically, when you’re feeling melancholy, try to make the best of it. Read, listen to music, drive, chill out, just try to enjoy it until it passes.

R Saldana [|Oo|======|oO|] - BTC/ETH/LTC Prophet > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:40

You’ll make it through mate, some tunes to lift your spirits.

MLGCarGuy > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:41

I don’t know if this will work for you or not, but I often imagine myself in extremely happy situations which basically can’t happen in real life and that picks me up.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
06/12/2015 at 00:43

I don’t have a good one to learn on, and if I did, I’d certainly get killed.

Girls are a considerable comtribution to the reason I'm feeling down though. That's nothing new.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:48

Take the MSF beginner course and use brand new bikes. You won’t get killed.

And you have no idea how messed up “relationships” can get and still be a positive influence in your life.......you’re preaching to the pastor right now if you talk about how complicated or difficult to understand girls are. You know what isn’t complicated? 80s japanese bikes.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > MLGCarGuy
06/12/2015 at 00:52

If they’re car-related, they’ll make me feel worse. ;_;

I’m never gonna get to drive or own a Miura or ‘68 Mustang Fastback or ‘73 Carrera RS, or a Diablo.

MLGCarGuy > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 00:53

I imagine myself with my crush because it ain’t happening in reality.

Kinja'd!!!

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > CB
06/12/2015 at 00:54

Trying.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > MLGCarGuy
06/12/2015 at 00:57

Don’t even get me started. Those are memories and thoughts I want to never see or hear again. I want those memories to be scorched earth, vaporized, eradicated from my mind like they never existed. Lobotomized.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
06/12/2015 at 00:58

Why’d you put relationships in “”, and how can a messed up one be a positive influence? That almost sounds like a contradiction. But explain pastor.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 01:07

You’ll get yoru own experience even if you don’t think it will ever happen. But relationships take on many forms, including ones that go outside the socially reinforced norms. I am technically in a “relationship” but we broke off the seriousness of it not too long ago because she is planning on moving overseas so we’re basically “formal until she moves away” or something like that. Also understand that being hurt can mean growth and insight. Very recently we hit a roadblock because of dishonesty and I learned osmething about my own wants and needs because of it. And we are still “together” but it still hurts being lied to and yet I have chosen to not focus on it and ask myself some hard questions about myself and life.

But pro tip - nothing clears your mind of these thoughts faster than a good drive or a ride on a bike. Both can work. Bikes are easier to do this on unless it’s a really damn good stretch of road.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
06/12/2015 at 01:22

For me, it’s more so that feeling of regret of not finding something out about someone until it’s too late then trying to go back and change that even though you’re a complete idiot for trying to change something knowing full damn well that you can’t ever go back and it torments and tears you up inside that you’re helpless to time and space and reality thinking it just likes to fuck with you. And you still hang out with said person and you think it’s awkward and you do it because they’re an awesome friend but it still kills you on the inside.

And no matter what I try or do, nothing makes it go the fuck away; plus something else from years ago that makes me want to lobotomize myself.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 01:27

Ha! A good friend of mine who moved to nashville is my “OMG I had SUCH A CRUSH on her but it didn’t happen but I remained friends with her because I am an awful person.....” and actually we did end up being good friends. It was difficult at first but gorwing up and seeing a few other people helped me put a LOT in perspective......Again, a bad decision can veryquickly become a positive lesson and improve your life.

All depends on what you want to take from it. But it will hurt for a while and you need to ride it out like a bad hangover.

PheeNoIVI > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 01:36

I’m there with you Karl. I’ve been doing the same exact thing very frequently as of late. Reach out man.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
06/12/2015 at 01:39

Easy when they’ve moved many states away. Damn near difficult when they’re all(just two really) are within 15 minutes of your house; one of which lives down the street from you. I don’t understand how it makes one an awful person, but if that’s the case, I must be the shittiest person ever in my head, probably am too.

For one of them, we’re still good friends but it’s a good kind of weird that can’t be explained. Hell, I’m texting this one right now.

The other one, literally every time I have ever had to communicate with her for any reason, I swear I’m always worried about making it awkward and it always feels awkward. I don’t know if I’m doing something right or wrong but it’s never normal and that one time I fucked up won’t ever escape the deepest parts of my mind. I would do anything to get back on that rollercoaster and tell myself to shut the fuck up.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 01:43

Oh she is several states away NOW, but when I was mad crushing on her? We were ROOMATES! Yeah! FUcking hell man, take that fear and realize it could strike you when you’re making lunch in the same kitchen........But again, I had to get over some crap and force myself to see past it. Wasn’t fun. But it was on me to do it. Wish i had more positive advice but this process is called “growing up” and it’s why your mid 20s get better - you are equipped to handle fucked up situations.

HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 01:44

and this is exactly why I need to get my car drive-able

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
06/12/2015 at 01:53

And everyone told me being young was the best thing. Clearly not. Fuck this growing up process and the stressful and depressing reality checks that come with it. God I can’t even wake up with a smile on my face; I don’t even remember the last time I ever did. Why can’t I age faster...

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 01:55

“young” is relative. And understand that not learning some of these lessons now will lead to a messed up time when you’re older. Really your best years are probably 21-30. At least, mine feel that way. If you really feel in trouble, counseling or therapy is usually readily available at bigger universities like LTU.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles
06/12/2015 at 02:04

What car is that?

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
06/12/2015 at 02:08

Already in counseling currently. Its alleviating some of my stress, just not these issues. I understand that now is better than later, but god damn does it suck now. I reckon somewhere down the line I’ll be thanking myself ever so much.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 02:15

Our media glamorizes relationships and everything based on “just knowing iot” or “sudden epiphanies” where everything can be resolved in a neat and tidy manner. But the reality of it is this is a process that takes a long time. Hell you don’t even know who you are or possibly even who you want to be until you leave college and have to forge your own way. There’s another fun year of your life - asking the “Who am I?” question lol. But once you figure things out it actually does get easier. It’s like working on a project car - things seem to only get worse for a while, but then the pieces fall into place and you hit that break even point where every hour of work yields more resolution than new problems.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
06/12/2015 at 02:30

I’m already asking myself that now. Oh and I may have just fucked up again too just now.

Captain of the Enterprise > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 06:38

Have you been diagnosed with anything?

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 08:04

Laugh it off and keep on going. Also, go get pie. Mmmmm, warm apple pie in the morning.....best breakfast ever

2BWise > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
06/12/2015 at 08:53

Years ago I was in a very similar scenario. Could have even posted this myself back ten years ago. Had a 944 at the time too. Best thing I could do at the time was crank up the stereo, windows down, and find a good stretch of back roads. It won’t help now but lete assure you it’ll get better. Just put your head down and focus on something you enjoy. Take the 944 to a bunch of car events, track days, spectate at the race tracks. Let time pass and things will steadily feel better.